It’s arguably true that the most sought after of emotions is that which we find in romantic relationships with a like-minded, loving, self-loving, accepting, respectful, self-aware and faithful partners.
Love is, again, a very much misunderstood feeling hence you find people loving incorrectly, nurturing or encouraging their partners to partially love them. In their minds they convince themselves that it’s better to be partially loved or respected in a relationship than to be alone.
Although wrong, some even find personal fulfillment, life purpose and worth only when they are in relationships, this is a very dangerous place to find yourself because being in a relationship isn’t a validation of self worth.
Being in a relationship with the wrong person for the wrong reasons is poisonous, it can break an individual, it can cause one to find themselves in the darkest pits of loneliness that can lead to a serious emotional/mental issue such as depression.
A wrong partner can very well turn to be an abuser that manipulates and abuses you emotionally, physically and financially leaving you broken and requiring years of costly therapy sessions.
The power that a partner can have on another cannot be overestimated, regardless of how strong we are as individuals, finding yourself in wrong partnerships can be the detrimental to you.
With that being said, one cannot overestimate the prosperity and growth as a fruit of good relationships, simply because you have a friend, a confidant, a lover, a sibling, “a parent” and more in one person.
A relationship with a compatible, loving, attentive and caring partner that has a vested interest in both your personal growth and the growth of you as a couple can result in a life filled with support, love, security and achievements.
Loving and being loved by the one you share your most intimate self with, no exaggeration, is one of the most beautiful and rewarding feelings we can ever experience:
There’s physical, emotional and yes mental security in knowing that your loved one will always be there to pick you up, carry you, comfort you, support you, advise you, protect you and go through life challenges with you because the truth is that it’s easier to manage life challenges when you have a partner.
Personally l have a driven partner who is hardworking and is ever relentlessly pursuing his dreams, in all honesty l have never met someone who inspires me the way he does. Through watching him live and improve his life, l cannot help but expect the best from myself too.
We have dream and goals that we can only achieve with hard work and drawing inspiration from each other.
Even the best of couples have their own share of problems or challenges if we care to put it mildly☺.
Co-existing in the same space:
This is simply because we are our own individuals before we are a couple, we have characters, personalities and our own ways of doing things and changing how we routinely do things isn’t as easy as it sounds. What’s important to note is that while we are firm in believing that “my way is the right way”, for the survival of the relationship it’s categorically of great importance to accommodate and negotiate with your partner and come to common ground, be in agreement and in sync of how you will both have things done. Failure to do this will cause unsolvable problems in your relationship.
Lack of understanding:
Understanding someone, better yet a lover is not an easy task because as mentioned above, we are all different and no two people are exactly the same, they may be similar in many ways BUT they will never be the same.
At times we exaggerate or blow out of proportion small issues simply because we allow our ego’s to “shine” when trying to prove a point instead of striving to understand each other.
Lack of Respect:
Respect is the most important building block for relationships, having no mutual respect for each other as a couple will leave your relationship suffering greatly if not destroy it completely. For a relationship to flourish, respect isn’t negotiable and no partner deserves it more than the other.
Its important that we treat each other in a considerate and well-mannered way, same as how we would want to be treated.
Calling each other names, using vulgar language will eventually kill the relationship.
The thing with respect is that it’s not the easiest of things to earn however once lost may never be recovered back.
It is normal for individuals to have different wants and goals for themselves, but as a couple, the survival of the relationship highly depends on whether you have the same goals and visions as a couple, otherwise you will find that instead of working together as a team with the sole purpose of achieving the set goals, you will begin to disconnect, drift apart, walking your individual journeys, heading towards your own isolated destination.
Just like in business, the company can only succeed when all its members share the same vision.
In conclusion, relationships require work, patience and dedication. Everyone deserves companionship, love, happiness and all the great things a right partner can bring.